Inquiry 4/4: What Will the Darkness Do To You?

Inquiry 4/4: What Will the Darkness Do To You?

I’ve always been scared easily. My jumpy nature has been with me throughout my life, and images from scary movies I watched as a kid are still seared into my psyche, always at the ready when I’m home alone or out in the woods.

The summer after high school, I went camping with some friends, and when it got dark, I was incessant in my requests for someone to go to the bathroom with me, go to the car with me...to essentially never leave me remotely vulnerable once it was nighttime.

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Inquiry 3/4: Out With the Old, In With the New

Inquiry 3/4: Out With the Old, In With the New

Every 30 days, I look forward to getting Lena Stevens’ monthly forecast in my inbox. Her shamanic wisdom always resonates in some way, and I take seriously her recommendations for how to flow with what’s happening in the world around me.

Her theme for September was “Adjustment,” and her advice was to practice discarding what was ready to go and embracing the new so that we don’t get stuck in old, habitual patterns that ultimately hurt us. This is perfect, of course, because we’re transitioning into a new season, and change is all around us.

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Inquiry 2/4: What Chronic Back Pain Has Taught Me About Tolerating Bullsh*t

Inquiry 2/4: What Chronic Back Pain Has Taught Me About Tolerating Bullsh*t

In my rough ‘n tumble twenties, I put my back through the ringer. Between getting bucked off a horse running full speed to crashing ATVs to getting rear-ended, my spine has experienced its fair share of bruises. Add on stress, poor posture, and having to schlep around a tiny human and all her gear, and most days, I’m on the couch with a heating pad by 5:00. If it’s a day where world events get me particularly enraged, the heating pad comes out by 2:00.

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What Are You Loyal To?

What Are You Loyal To?

Right after the atrocities committed by white supremacists in Charlottesville recently, I went to my office and bumbled through my day, replaying the videos I’d seen over and over again in my head.

I checked my LinkedIn account like I do most days, and as I was scrolling through my feed, I noticed something: there was no mention of what had happened in Charlottesville. Nothing. It was as if it didn’t exist.

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Coastal Evergreens and The Lie of Exceptionalism

Coastal Evergreens and The Lie of Exceptionalism

Lately I’d been caught up in a story that I know many of you have probably been caught up in before, too, which is the story that says that unless we’re the best at something, it’s not worth doing.

We exist within a culture that tells us we need to be exceptional but then treats us as if we’re all the same. We’re mass marketed to, sold products that are made in droves, and are told in millions of tiny ways to act, look, and be like everyone else.

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If You're Unhappy at Work, You Might be at War with Yourself

If You're Unhappy at Work, You Might be at War with Yourself

Every summer until I was a teenager, I would spend a week at Camp Christian with my church group. It was a sweet little place with cabins, a pool, a big lodge with a communal kitchen, and of course a fire pit where we’d sing songs every night.

One summer when I was around ten years old, I was there again, enjoying a week with my friends, many of whom were part of the “in-group” at church.

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How Regret Distorted My Career Path

How Regret Distorted My Career Path

For a long time, I carried the weight of a major regret: getting my Master’s degree in a subject that would never translate easily into a “real job.”

In the hazy clusterf*ck that was my post-grad job search, I berated myself constantly for choosing to spend close to $80,000 on a degree in Conflict and Dispute Resolution that didn’t seem to be getting me anywhere.

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You're Not a Problem to be Fixed

You're Not a Problem to be Fixed

A week or so ago, I was on my way to a World Domination Summit (WDS) event facilitated by Jonathan Fields, who leads something called Good Life Project. The three-hour workshop was all about how to become “sparked,” or lit up in a way that leads you to what you’re meant to do in the world.

I mostly love Jonathan’s work and was so excited to finally see him in person. The workshop topic is one that I care a lot about, and I showed up ready to engage and bring the fruits of what I’d learned to you all via a blog post.

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